Just wanted to check in with everybody and share my 2015 goals. Sorry they’re late. I was working on that pilot and everything got pushed a few weeks.
To be honest, I don’t even like saying the word goal. That might seem like sacrilege if you listen to my podcast because it sounds like that’s all I talk about but if you listen close – it’s not. What I talk about is hustling (taking action.)
My old instinct is to jot down my goals for 2015, which is what I did, but they are just an entry point to a much larger plan of action. What I really do is list the actions I will take in 2015 but let me show you how I get there.
First, I list the goals:
Write my memoir.
Write a feature film.
Write and perform a new forty five minutes of stand up.
Sell my memoir.
Sell the feature film.
Lose 25 pounds.
Now, I could blindly leave my list of goals at that which is what I used to do many years ago. Then I would wake up everyday and cross my fingers they somehow come true. I might even take some actions (which I thought of as secondary to the passion I had for the goals) but as soon as life got busy, I put the goals on the back burner to focus on whatever life was throwing at me.
So how do I increase my odds of achieving my goals?
I flip everything and instead of committing my time to the goal, I commit my time to an action. That means there is no trying or wanting or wishing. If I am doing it then I am doing it.
This works for a couple of reasons.
1) Taking the action will always bring me closer to the goal.
2) By taking and completing the action, I get to taste a minor victory. I need that. I need a little taste of success because if I experience no joy unless I get to the finish line, I’ll wind up quitting. How do I know? Because I’m 40 and stopped lying to myself about what works and what doesn’t.
So I commit to the action, knowing that is the only way to increase my odds of success. It increases them to almost near certainty.
Let me use dieting as an easy example. I’ve tried diets my whole life. They do not work. Ever. They are a temporary fix to a life long living problem.
If I go on a diet and work out like a lunatic until I lose 25 pounds, that’s great. I’ve done that repeatedly over the last 20 years. I always wind up putting the weight back on. Why? Didn’t I reach my goal? I did. But because my goal was the goal and not the action, my weight went back up and I’m back at square one.
Now let me flip it.
What if I committed to a healthy way of living? And my actions were:
– Don’t eat like a fucking lunatic. Get out and move my fat ass for 30 minutes.
Or more specifically –
No sodas. No unnecessary bread, pasta or pizza. Cut the sugars out and start walking for 30 minutes 3 days a week.
Week 2 walk a little, job a little.
Week 3 jog for 30 minutes until I get to a place where I am aware and in control of what I’m shoveling into my cake hole and am doing cardio for 30 minutes a day for at least 3 days a week. Once I have 3 days down, kick it up to 4 and bring in an actual workout, using weights and resistance training.
What can I expect in the beginning? Full on fucking rebellion from every part of my body including my brain. I will want to quit. To push it off tomorrow. To eat late night sugary snacks. Even if I do, stick to the action. I have to allow myself to make mistakes. I will be uncomfortable. I will be sore. But after two weeks, I will feel great.
I have to get okay with being uncomfortable.
Now let me rewrite my goals for 2015 and change everything into actions. (I am writing and talking to myself below.)
– Write ten pages of my memoir every day Monday through Friday until the first draft of the manuscript is due.
Email the draft out to 3 people you know and trust for stringent notes. While you are waiting on the notes…
Outline the movie as well as fold in the notes for the memoir.
Write the feature film every day, Monday through Friday, ten pages a day. Once a rough draft emerges, rewrite that until you feel like you can send it out to trusted peers for notes. Understand this screenplay has an amazing chance of being horrible. You have only written a few. The medium has always confused and intimidated you. Allow moments for the fear. Allow the moments of self-doubt. Then get back to work.
– While waiting for notes on the screenplay, send the memoir to your agent to get feedback and strategy for bringing it to publishers.
– Reread the memoir and pull out a bullet point list of potential material for the new 45 minutes of stand up.
– During the month of April and May, perform the new material at open mics or showcase shows no less than twice a week.
– get the notes on the screenplay from trusted peers and fold them into the new draft. Send that in to agent and see if it there is a chance of sending it out for sale. If not, enjoy the experience of completing a task that intimidated you.
Starting 1/27 – no desserts. No sugary breakfasts. No sodas. No gratuitous bread. Monday, Wed and Friday – Jog 2 miles in the morning. Walk 30 minutes at night.
Starting February 3rd – hit 4 days a week at Barry’s Boot Camp.
Starting March 3rd – complete a whole month academy at Barry’s.
Notice I threw out the actual weight loss number. It would be nice to hit it, but I would rather get to a place where achieving my goals every day is more important than some over all goal.
If I do these things every day then my actions become habits then that becomes my character and at the end of the day, I would rather be a man of character than a man of goals. I have a long way to go before that’s the case but I’m ready to put in the work to get there – one day at a time.
Happy New Year,